Scripture: Psalm 139
Prayer: “Almighty and everlasting God, You are always more ready to hear than we to pray, and to give more than we either desire or deserve. Pour upon us the abundance of your mercy, forgiving us those things of which our conscience is afraid, and giving us those good things for which we are not worthy to ask, except through the merits and mediation of Jesus Christ our Savior; who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.” (From the Book of Common Prayer)
Have you ever had a friend who just “gets” you? A friend you can talk to about anything, who knows what makes you excited and what makes you mad, and who will listen well when you need to talk.
The Lord has given me several of these friends over the last couple years. But through these friendships, He is also teaching me that our earthly friendships are never perfect. I recently was going through something that none of my friends had ever experienced. I talked to a couple people about it, and even though they were kind, sympathetic listeners, I felt a certain loneliness in knowing that they couldn’t really relate.
I’m sure many others have had a similar experience of feeling misunderstood. No matter how close you are to your friends, or how empathetic they are, no one person will ever completely know and understand every single thing about you. But that’s what makes friendship with Jesus so precious.
Psalm 139 tells us that God knows us on a level that none of our friends can even come close to. He knows what we’re about to say before we say it (v. 4), He knows what each day will hold for the rest of our lives (v. 16), and He knows the depths of our hearts and our “anxious thoughts” (v. 23).
Verses 11-12 say, “If I say, ‘Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,’ even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.” Even in the moments you feel the most alone, Jesus sees you and knows you. He shines a light into the parts of your life and your heart that are the most difficult. You do not have to be afraid of what He will say or think when you bring them to him, or worry that He won’t understand.
I’m definitely not saying that friends aren’t important, or that you shouldn’t share your heart with them. But we cannot put all our expectations on one person. We cannot expect anyone to be the perfect friend. Realizing that can be hard, but eventually, it is freeing. When we take the pressure off of our friends, family, or significant others to know and love us perfectly, we free ourselves from being disappointed by unrealistic expectations.
Christ alone is our perfect friend and confidant. He knows and loves and understands us perfectly, and He wants us to confide in Him. What is on your heart that you need to bring to Jesus today? He is your friend, and He is listening.